Whenever my friends ask me to go somewhere during my hubby’s non working hours, my answer is always “Let me ask Ray”. Most of my friends already understand the dynamic of my relationship and respect it, but a new friend responded “Why do you have to ask his permission?” I don’t think of it as asking permission but asking his opinion, being considerate and coordinating schedules.
Times I Do Ask My Spouse “Permission”
As I mentioned before I discuss with my hubby possible plans before I commit to them if they are during his non working hours. He may have plans for us that I am unaware of, he is big on surprises. I also discuss with my husband on purchases over $X.XX. For example I was out with a friend and stumbled upon a great deal on my favorite line of purses, I excused myself called the hubby up he agreed it was a deal I couldn’t pass up and I proceeded with my purchase. Especially during times like that he is great at helping me decide if I really need/want something, so I rarely have buyers remorse.
And then there are times when I am NOT coordinating or being considerate I am just straight up asking his permission. These times are when the choice could create friction in our marriage and are hot button issues for him. And I rather ask him if it’s okay given a particular set of circumstances than start a war, happy marriage 101 pick and choose your battles.
Times I Don’t Ask My Spouse For Permission
Of course I don’t feel the need to coordinate with my husband on everything I do, so there are times when I don’t. During his work hours I roam and go freely (winks). Also, because we both have a monthly “allowance” I am able to spend X amount of money freely as well. But even with that said I still enter scheduled outings/appointments on our shared calendar so he can be aware of my whereabouts.
Quote From The Husband When Asked Does Your Wife Need Permission TO Go Places?
No, we converse about it and then a decision is made. It’s not permission as much as it’s just us being on the same page.
Do you ask your spouse for permission to go places or making purchases?